The Adventure Is The Everyday, Mama - by Kristi Montague for MotherHustle
“If I want to live my life as an adventure, I need to start looking at the whole thing as an adventure – even the seemingly mundane. It’s all necessary.”

We are all ordinary. We are all boring. We are all spectacular. We are all shy. We are all bold. We are all heroes. We are all helpless. It just depends on the day. -Brad Meltzer

I’m ready for my montage to begin.

In movies, montages move the story forward. There’s the brave hero-in-training montage, the determined artist working-on-something montage, and, of course, the romantic comedy trying-on-clothes montage.

I love these because you get to jump right to the good stuff. They don’t waste time showing the mundane steps it took to get there. Sure, they may show some major struggles along the way to create a good story arc, but they skip over the boring things that have to happen to even be able to get to the adventure. I want the montage.

Social media can be just as bad. People tend to post just the montage stuff.

The exciting travels, the amazing meals, the funny videos of their kids, and it can give you wanderlust for the adventurous life you assume everyone but you is living. I’m guilty of it, too. When someone’s entire life is portrayed as an adventure, it seems easier for us to romanticize the grand experiences and forget that it isn’t reality.

We don’t think about J.K. Rowling having to clean up pencil shavings. We don’t think about Ponce de Leon having to tie (or buckle?) his shoes. We lose sight of the adventure when we’re stuck in the process and the small details it takes to get there.

Not to be Debbie Downer, but can we just all agree that life is full of many, many of these dull moments?

In both motherhood and business, I feel like many days, weeks even, are completely unremarkable. Just ordinary moments. Gathering receipts. Doing laundry. Trying to figure out what to eat for dinner. Organizing workspaces. Replacing batteries. Changing diapers. Cleaning the bathroom. Buying milk.

Most days, I find myself longing to push past the boring stuff and just get to the adventurous parts already. I want the laundry to be finished and put away. I want the expenses already compiled. I want the eternal question of what’s for dinner to be answered. I want this article to already be written instead of still struggling to write it.

This isn’t a film. This isn’t a book. This isn’t a finished masterpiece, this is a messy work in progress. This is my life.

If I want to live my life as an adventure, I need to start looking at the whole thing as an adventure – even the seemingly mundane. It’s all necessary.

I want to have the perspective to find the excitement in everything, not just the amazing parts, but also the boring parts. Even more than that, I want to be able to see the boring parts as much more than boring. These are the vital puzzle pieces to a much bigger picture.

No skipping. No fast-forwarding. This is the adventure.

So, blast some music, declare this is the part of the biopic that is a montage and embrace it with the same gusto you would mountaintop moments. It’s an incredible adventure we’re on, this life. Extraordinary things ahead. Now, excuse me, but I have some spreadsheets to finish.


MotherHustle Panelist Kristi Montague is a designer, maker and jack-of-all-trades who owns and operates Montague Workshop, a creative studio, with her husband Brad. From Kid President to books and birds and more, their studio aims to joyfully rebel against the world that is to create the world that could be. She’s also a mama two toddlers and lives in a 117-year-old house in rural Tennessee. You can follow her on Instagram, and see the latest projects from Montague Workshop on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube.

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