Feeling Guilty, Mama? Here's How to Get Over It. - BY Emily Cretella for MotherHustle
guilt: n. a bad feeling caused by knowing or thinking that you have done something bad or wrong.

I have a confession: at times, I’m known to have little patience for certain people’s minor health ailments.

Ok, to be real, it’s just my husband’s. My husband’s minor health ailments. A stuffy nose … an itchy throat … a throbbing headache … I have a hard time holding in my heavy sighs or deep eye rolls when he complains.

And it’s not nice of me. I know this.

But.

But, but, but … I feel like, if I actually sat down and paid attention to my own body, I could always find something that didn’t feel good. My aching feet. My back, which cracks like the whip of an opening paper fan. My own throbbing, throbbing head. I can feel it all, if I pay attention to it.

So instead, I choose to ignore it.

And I feel the same way about guilt. If I sit down and think about it, I can feel guilty about everything in life…

My working hours, which, more often than I like to admit to myself, seep into my self-proclaimed family time.

My workload, which is totally not sustainable, and yet something I’ve sustained for way too long.

My workout schedule, or lack thereof.

My attempt at healthy, non-toxic living, which includes the salon-purchased shampoo laced with chemicals that I just cannot give up.

My parenting, which often includes too much yelling, too much frustration, and way, way too much time on my iPhone.

Guilt. Guilt. Guilt.

If we paid attention to all the guilt that hides behind the shadows of each and every decision we need to make as creative mompreneurs, we’d all become piles of mushy mush lying in bed with a box o’ wine, watching a Real Housewives marathon.

But because we’re superwomen (right?!), we have to cope with this guilt. Maybe not totally ignore it, but find a place for it. Tuck it in between the heavy lines of a packed schedule. Package it up like an Amazon return. Recognize it, but keep it contained.

As I started thinking more about this issue, I realized that I don’t ignore guilt as much as I might think. However, over the course of building my business, I’ve learned how to compartmentalize this annoying gloom cloud. Here’s my advice:

#1: Know what guilt looks like for YOU.

Your guilt adversary — the one you beat yourself up over the most — is different than mine, and different than that of the amazing, gorg mom you see posting selfies all over Instagram. Be real with yourself and your feelings. Understand what makes you feel guilty, and what doesn’t.

#2: Stay productive.

If you feel like you’re making smart use of your time, you’ll feel less guilty about how you’re choosing to exert your energy. I feel the most guilty when I realize I’ve spent 20 minutes Facebook stalking instead of working – time I’ve taken away from my kids to build my business.

#3: Share the burden.

When you feel like your guilt is getting stir crazy, let it out. Chat with a trusted someone, or your mompreneur community. My husband is always able to quickly snap me out of a funk. And if that doesn’t work, write it out in a pretty journal (affiliate links):

This month on MotherHustle, we’re going to be exploring all of these things in turn.

Some amazing mama bosses will be sharing their guilty secrets and guilt-battling tips with you so that we can all better understand and overcome our own guilt-inducing triggers. So stay tuned, get rid of the guilt, and join the conversation over on Facebook or Instagram!


Emily Cretella is the founder of MotherHustle.com, as well as the copywriting and content marketing firm CursiveContent.com, where she helps clients create + share stories their audiences love.

She adores being mom to her two little ladies and drinking obscene amounts of coffee from mugs with pithy sayings. Find her on Instagram, and learn more about ways you can collaborate with MotherHustle.

 

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